Myriam Merlet: The Lost Hero

Myriam MerletBy Scott T. Allison and George R. Goethals

Sadly, many of our most powerful heroes perish at a young age.  Some are assassinated (e.g., John F. Kennedy and John Lennon); some are killed in accidents (Princess Diana and Buddy Holly); and some self-destruct (e.g., John Belushi and Heath Ledger).  It is unusual to hear of a hero dying at a young age in a natural disaster.  But that is exactly what happened recently to Myriam Merlet, who was killed at the age of 53 when her home collapsed on her during the Haitian earthquake on January 12, 2010.

Who was Myriam Merlet?  She was a champion of women's rights in a country, Haiti, that desperately needed such a champion.  Until 2005 it was not illegal for a man to rape a young girl or woman in Haiti.  By Haitian law, rape was considered a crime against honor — a squandering of virginity that was often settled with a payment to the victim’s family.  Sometimes judges suggested as a reparation that the rapist marry the victim.  All this changed in Haiti because of the collective efforts of women activists such as Myriam Merlet, Magalie Marcelin, and Anne Marie Coriolan — all of whom perished in the quake.

In an essay written in 2001, Myriam Merlet explained her calling to help Haitian women.  Merlet lived and was educated abroad until the age of 29, when she felt "the need to be part of something.  This couldn't be the black cause in the United States or the immigration cause in Canada.  It could only be the cause of the Haitian people."

Merlet was especially interested in remedying arbitrarily defined differences in power and status among different groups of people:  "I look at things through the eyes of women, very conscious of the roles, limitations, and stereotypes imposed on us."  Merlot wanted everyone, men and women, to reach their full potential as human beings:  "The idea is to give women the opportunity to grow so that we may end up more complete human beings who can really change things€¦. Individuals should have the opportunity to be complete human beings, women as well as men, youth as well as old people, the lame as well as the healthy."

As with most heroes, Merlet was not deterred by the challenges of achieving her vision of an egalitarian society.Myriam Merlet  "Of course it's a utopian dream," she said.  "The more people share in the same dream, as in Martin Luther King's I have a dream speech, the more likely we'll achieve it collectively.  Often I ask myself if it's possible to make this dream a reality when it's not shared by others.  More people must be willing to take a different course, though some might call them crazy.

"It's hard and frustrating because you find yourself alone.  I don't mean to say that I'm responsible for the problems [of Haiti].  But still, as a Haitian woman, I must make an effort so that all together we can extricate ourselves from them."

In Haiti, a hero has been lost.  Although there is concern in Haiti about the future of the rights of women and girls, we are optimistic that someone will fill the void.  We have found that heroes such as Merlet leave an indelible mark on the societies they change, and one of those marks is the seed of heroism that they plant in others.  We eagerly await the future fruits of Merlet's great vision and labors.

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Do you have a hero that you would like us to profile?  Please send your suggestions to Scott T. Allison (sallison@richmond.edu) or to George R. Goethals (ggoethal@richmond.edu).

Montgomery Meigs: An Unsung Civil War Hero

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Coming to Terms with Richard Nixon

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Aimee Mullins: “Dancing” With Adversity

 Aimee MullinsBy Scott Allison and George Goethals

Born with fibular hemimelia — missing fibula bones — Aimee Mullins remembers hating her physical therapy sessions as a child.    She had to do innumerable repetitive exercises that involved using her legs to bend thick elastic bands to build up her muscles.  She loathed them and tried to bargain with her doctor to avoid doing them.

Her doctor told her, "Aimee, you are such a strong and powerful little girl, I think you're going to break one of these bands.  When you do break it, I'm going to give you $100."

With these words, her doctor forever changed her worldview.  "What he effectively did for me was re-shape an awful daily occurrence into a new and promising experience for me.  I have to wonder to what extent his vision and his declaration of me as a strong and powerful little girl shaped my own view of myself as an inherently strong, powerful, and athletic person well into the future."

By any measure, Mullins' life has been a remarkable success story.  Mullins competed in the Paralympics in 1996 in Atlanta, where she ran the 100-meter dash in 17.01 seconds and jumped 3.14 meters in the long-jump.  She is a college graduate, actress, fashion model, and motivational speaker.  Mullins works with numerous non-profit organizations and is President of the Women's Sports Foundation.

Aimee Mullins"People have continually wanted to talk about overcoming adversity," she says.  "This phrase never sat right with me.  Implicit in this phrase is the idea that success or happiness is about emerging on the other side of a challenging experience unscathed or unmarked by the experience.  But in fact, we are changed.  We are marked, of course, by a challenge, whether physically or emotionally, or both.

"I'm going to suggest that this is a good thing.  Adversity isn't an obstacle that we need to get around in order to resume living our life.  It's part of our life.

"I'm not trying to diminish the impact, the weight of a person's struggle.  There is adversity and challenge in life, and it's all very real.

"The question isn't whether you're going to meet adversity.  It's how you're going to meet it.  And so our responsibility isn't to shield those we care for from adversity, but to prepare them to meet it well.  We do a disservice to our kids when we make them feel they aren't equipped to adapt to adversity.

"Find those opportunities wrapped in adversity.  Maybe the idea is not so much overcoming adversity.  It's opening ourselves up to itIt's embracing it.  Grappling with it.  Maybe even dancing with it.

"Perhaps if we see adversity as natural, consistent, and useful, we're less burdened by it.  Darwin illustrated a truth about the human character.  It's not the strongest to survive, nor is it the most intelligent to survive.  It is the one who is most adaptable to change.  The human ability to survive and flourish is driven by the struggle of the human spirit.  Transformation, adaptation is our greatest human skill. Perhaps until we are tested, we don't know what we're made of.  Maybe that's what adversity gives us: a sense of self, a sense of our own power.

"We can give ourselves a gift.  We can re-imagine adversity as more than just tough times.  Adversity is just change that we haven't adapted ourselves to yet."

Aimee Mullins' entire motivational speech can be seen at http://www.ted.com/talks/aimee_mullins_the_opportunity_of_adversity.html

Tiger Woods: A Hero Ready For Redemption

Tiger WoodsBy Scott Allison and George Goethals

No human being has ever been better groomed to be a sports hero — and to remain one — than Eldrick Tont Woods, better known as Tiger Woods. Tiger’s dad, Earl Woods, went to great lengths to prepare his son for greatness. If Earl could have given his son a golf club in the womb, he would have. Tiger was playing by age two, competing against Bob Hope on TV at age three, and winning golf tournaments at age eight.

Although Tiger was prepared to achieve greatness on the golf course, he was far less prepared to live life under the media microscope. Tiger has always fiercely guarded his privacy and has shown a heightened sensitivity to criticism from both the media and his fellow golf competitors on the PGA Tour. He has a thin skin and a fragility about him that belies his formidability as a golfer. No wonder, then, that the exposure of his marital infidelities, and the media circus that followed, absolutely devastated him. Tiger clearly hit a personal rock-bottom.

When Tiger had his car accident on Thanksgiving night, he experienced a "trigger event" — a traumatic period in a person's life when he must choose a dramatic new life direction, or continue down his road of ruin. Trigger events are typically disastrous occurrences that cause us to take stock about what is fundamentally important to us. These events bring our values into sharp relief, lead us to change the way we live, and motivate us to become honest with ourselves about what really matters. Tiger Woods' trigger event caused him to realize that he had reached a dangerous bottoming of his life.

For Tiger, amidst all the messiness of this past winter, there is a silver lining. Yes, he and his family have experienced a lot of pain, and there is no doubt much healing to be done. But the good news is that Tiger has shown a self-awareness of his personal weaknesses. He acknowledged his need to work on becoming a better person, and he is doing something about it. We believe he can use this low point in his life to reach even greater heights as a hero.

How is this possible? It's simple: People love redemption. And it turns out that heroes can redeem themselves in different ways: (1) they can become a morally better person; (2) they can achieve new levels of competence; or (3) they can do both. Tiger can follow Kobe Bryant's lead and redeem himself by dominating his sport again. But Tiger can go beyond the Kobe blueprint for redemption by softening his personality and proving himself a morally changed man. If he can do these things, the public will embrace him as never before. A Tiger Woods who is a humbled and changed man off the golf course, and still dominant on the golf course, will be placed on a much higher heroic pedestal than he was previously.

As painful as the winter of 2009-2010 has been for Tiger, he can use his adversity as grist for the redemptive mill. People have always respected Tiger. His trigger event may be just what he needed to become a humbled, healthier person that the world loves as well as respects. No golfer has ever shown more grit and determination on the golf course than Tiger Woods. If he can now show these same qualities off the course, he can propel himself to an entirely new level of heroism.

We're rooting for him. After all, we love heroes as much as anyone else.