Ralph Marston: The Hero Who Promotes Self-Improvement

By Scott T. Allison and George R. Goethals

People are often motivated to improve their traits, abilities, and health.  Self-improvement is one of four central processes involving the "self", according to Psychology Professor Constantine Sedikides and his colleagues at the University of Southampton, England.  The three other processes are self-enhancement, self-verification, and self-assessment.  According to a 2009 article published by Sedikides and Erica Hepper, self-improvement has historically been portrayed in our society as "obligatory, inevitable," and "moral."

A number of people have made it their profession to help others improve; these people include teachers, coaches, mentors, and healthcare workers.  We call these individuals transparent heroes because they often invisibly make their positive contributions behind the scenes.  Tony Robbins is one of the few examples of self-help gurus who have attained celebrity status for motivating people to become better.  But most motivational writers and speakers are content to do their good work in obscurity, finding that helping others is its own reward.

Ralph Marston is a striking example of such a motivating individual.  Since 1995, Marston has been composing and sending positive messages about living a good life over the Internet, Facebook, and Twitter.  His daily messages are brief, never exceeding 200 words on his website, and never more than 140 characters on Twitter, where he has 100,000 followers.  His uplifting messages urge readers to embrace a multitude of positive values, such as gratitude, discipline, purpose, love, acceptance, balance, and focus.

Marston describes himself as just a "regular person" in his mid-50s, living in Austin, Texas, with his wife and kids.  "I have always been interested in personal development," he said, "and I've applied many of the concepts I've learned, to my own life and business."

The popularity of Marston's daily messages initially caught him by surprise.  "I've been amazed at the tremendous positive response that it has received," he said.  "People from all over the world, in all walks of life, have a sincere interest in living lives of meaning, caring, dedication and fulfillment. I am extremely grateful that the technology of the Internet affords me the opportunity to share my work with so many people."

We suspect that as long as people are driven to improve themselves, there will always be people like Ralph Marston to help them on their journeys.  "Self-improvement is adaptive," wrote Sedikides and his colleague Michael Strube.  "Improving one's social, physical, and intellectual skills is a vital prerequisite for exceeding old boundaries and achieving goals far into the future."  Sedikides also notes that "self-improvement instills a sense of progress and hope" in people.

According to Ralph Marston, one of the keys to self-improvement is the ability to identify one's weaknesses.  "When you're honest with yourself about your weaknesses, and willing to put some effort into working on them, you've identified a powerful pathway for self improvement," he said.  Marston has good advice for people going through tough times in their lives.  "You can wallow in self pity or you can seize the opportunity for self improvement," he said.  "In every disappointment there is the seed of fulfillment. In every weakness there is the seed of strength."

One recurring theme in Marston's work is the idea that the possibilities of creating value in our lives are unlimited, and that each of us can choose to make that value come to life in our own unique way.  Below is a video clip offering a sample of Ralph Marston's self-improvement philosophy.

Thor, God of Thunder: Another Summer Blockbuster Superhero

By Scott T. Allison and George R. Goethals

Every summer seems to have its share of movies featuring superhero protagonists, and the summer of 2011 is no exception.  This year we have Captain America and his fight with World War II Nazis.   There is also the Green Lantern's battle with the awesome power of Parallax.  Perhaps topping them all is the Norse God of thunder, Thor, who must overcome the Frost Giants and the treachery of his own brother.

Movie studios are releasing more and more superhero movies with each passing decade.  Over the past few summers, ultra-successful films have been made featuring Batman, Iron Man, the X-Men, and the Fantastic Four, to name but a few.  We appear to be enthralled by tales of people who possess superhuman powers, who are confronted by evil, and who overcome formidable obstacles in triumphing over the direst of circumstances.

Why do we identify with super beings with magical powers?  One reason is that the creators of superheroes endow them with a crucial flaw or limitation that makes them very human in their vulnerability.  Almost inevitably the superhero's flaw jeopardizes his life and the lives of those he wishes to save.  With a small assist from a sidekick, often a mere human, the superhero is able to overcome his shortcomings and vanquish the enemy.

Quite early in the movie Thor, we encounter the superhero's three flaws:  pridefulness, impulsiveness, and blindness to the manipulations of his evil brother.  These shortcomings of Thor lead to his banishment to earth, where he must live as a mere mortal.  As with most superheroes, Thor receives help from a variety of sidekicks, including a beautiful scientist named Jane who becomes his love interest.  She falls in love with two very important characteristics of Thor which are typical of a superhero:  his chiseled body and his mysterious origins.

The greatest source of Thor's superpower is the hammer Mjolnir which, after his banishment, is only accessible to him if he proves himself worthy to receive it.  After Thor has lived for some time as a mortal human, his arrogance begins to soften and he gradually acquires compassion and wisdom.  At the film's climax, Thor is engaged in a great battle with a seemingly indestructible automaton sent to earth by his disloyal brother.  Battered and near death, Thor offers to sacrifice himself to save others, a proclamation that affirms his worthiness to wield the hammer and defeat both the automaton and his brother's evil rule.

To ensure a sequel, the movie ends with a few loose ends.  Thor is separated from Jane, and not all the villains have been defeated.  We look forward to seeing what happens in the next installment of Thor.

One final caveat:  Phil Zimbardo, a social scientist and expert on heroes, has lamented the fact that most people's default image of a hero is the classic superhero with superpowers.  According to Zimbardo, this mindset prevents people from recognizing that the most important heroes in our society are average, everyday people who lack superpowers but who do the right thing when called to do so.

Zimbardo may have a point.  We should indeed see ourselves, with all our puny human limitations, as potential heroes who can make a positive difference in people's lives.  At the same time, we see no harm in escaping into fictional worlds in which extraordinary beings such as Thor are able to transform entire societies with their super-strength and super-morals.  These superheroes may be just the right elixir for those of us who need an entertaining refuge from the dark realities and mundane routines of daily life.

Below is the trailer for Thor.

Jimmy Fallon: The Genuinely Nice Hero

By Scott T. Allison and George R. Goethals

When one of us was a young boy, his mother often mentioned that actor and singer Pat Boone was the celebrity she most admired.  The reason?  "He's genuinely a nice guy," she said.  More than thirty years later, one of our daughters, at age 14, became a great fan of actor and comedian Jimmy Fallon.  The reason was a familiar one:  "He's genuinely a nice guy," she said.

In an age when celebrities routinely make the news for their bad behavior, it is refreshing to find examples of decency and virtue.  These rare shining lights in the entertainment industry are heroes to many young fans who are thirsty for good healthy role models.  In an earlier blog, we described the uncommon integrity of actress and producer Tina Fey.  Perhaps not coincidentally, we now turn our attention to one of Fey's former sidekicks on television, Jimmy Fallon.

Fallon began his career doing stand-up comedy, but he achieved his fame during a five-year stint as a cast member on Saturday Night Live.  While on SNL, Fallon showcased great versatility:  He could sing, play the guitar, do impersonations, and perform in skits.  Well-liked by both his fans and fellow co-stars, Fallon began to cultivate a reputation for being a genuinely good guy, almost generous to a fault, a person who always made himself available to fans.  Fallon eventually left SNL appeared in a few successful movies, and was then given his own show on NBC, Late Night With Jimmy Fallon.

All along his professional climb upward, Fallon has remained a modest, likeable person. He recently appeared on the cover of Rolling Stone magazine with the caption, "The eternal sunshine of Jimmy Fallon: Can anyone really be this nice?"  When he hosted the Emmy Awards, headlines roared, "Jimmy Fallon brings nice guy image to the Emmys".  One reviewer wrote, "Fallon was puppy-dog eager, a nice guy who wants to please his guests and his audience. He’s a TV star who never pulls rank, a celebrity who seems to see himself as an equal to his fans."

With celebrity narcissism running rampant these days, Fallon's humility is inspiring.  “The fact that I get to work in TV is beyond belief,” he said.  During NBC's snafu involving Jay Leno's and Conan O'Brien's talk-show time-slots last year, Fallon wisely steered clear of the clash of egos.  "I'll do my show at 3 in the morning," he said. "I'm just happy to have a show." When Fallon was named one of People magazine’s 50 Most Beautiful People, he described the honor as quite "embarrassing."

On his Late Night show, Fallon always shows great respect for his guests and genuinely wants to have fun with them.  “When I write jokes about people, I do it in the nicest way, because I don’t dislike anybody,” Fallon says. “I love everybody, and I love the whole business that we’re in.”  He prefers the style of taking “a little playful jab here and there,” and he wants his guest stars to be in on the joke, rather than being the butt of the joke.

As befitting a hero, Jimmy Fallon has devoted his time and money to many worthwhile charitable causes, including the Food Bank for New York City, Stand Up To Cancer, AIDS research, Robin Hood's anti-poverty programs.  To millions of people, Fallon sets a great example for how to treat people, conduct oneself, and handle success.  Our daughter, who once adored him as a young teen, is very grateful to have had Jimmy Fallon as a role model during her impressionable years.  She's still a big fan, and so are we.

Below is an amusing interview of Jimmy Fallon.

Arnold Schwarzenegger: The Downward Spiral of a Hero

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— Scott Allison and George Goethals

Woodrow Wilson: A Hero Trending Downward

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Our contract at Routledge required us to remove many of our profiles on our blog at this time.  But we do have other hero profiles and information about heroes on the menu bar located on the right side of this page.  Check it out!

In the mean time, please accept our apologies.  Here is more information about our new book.

You can click here to return to our HERO home page.  And thanks for visiting!

— Scott Allison and George Goethals

Sigmund Freud: The Vindication of a Battered Theory

Oops!  We had to remove the hero profile you’re looking for because it will soon appear in our new book Heroic Leadership: An Influence Taxonomy of 100 Exceptional Individuals, to be published by Routledge in 2013.

Our contract at Routledge required us to remove many of our profiles on our blog at this time.  But we do have other hero profiles and information about heroes on the menu bar located on the right side of this page.  Check it out!

In the mean time, please accept our apologies.  Here is more information about our new book.

You can click here to return to our HERO home page.  And thanks for visiting!

— Scott Allison and George Goethals