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Week 4 Reflection

The fourth visit J and I discussed our favorite music. My partner liked rap which was reflected when he would sing out lyrics to teh sing from heart, and did so really well.  Although we talked about music the most productive aspect fo conversation was on his artwork. Since the booklet idea was introduced to the class, I asked J if he enjoyed art. He told me about one of the paintings in the classroom that he painted. He painted a canvas of Mohammed Ali/or Mike Tyson winning a boxing match. The painting was incredible and he shared that he had another painting in progress.  It was exciting to know he enjoyed art because of our plans to make the booklet.

This day was also the first time I shared my written copy of J’s story. Based off of his facial expressions and eagerness to listen carefully to his story he seemed to appreciate having his story told. He liked how I captured details of his story by showing and not telling. We made a few additions to the story but iverall he was very dedicated towards making his story as realistic and reflective of his past.

Week 5 Reflection

This last visit felt much more casual than the rest. Both myself and my partner were exhausted form the previous day and little sleep but were able to discuss for a bit about our favorite season. He shared that his favorite season was spring because it reminded him of baseball and being outside. We discussed the birds singing signaling that spring has come and both of our struggles with allergies.

My partner and I went over the first initial prompts quickly and then began to talk about college life. He was very excited to tour the campus. He was especially interested in the gym and basketball courts. We ended up talking about working out. Based off talking with J it seems that him and the other inmates enjoy taking care of themselves physically while at the detention center. J shared his favorite workout exercises, those being pushups pull-ups and sit ups.  After sharing that I worked out in the gym he seemed interested. It had been awhile since he had used weights and machines. I felt like this conversation was a full circle moment from our first visit. Thats when Nick G. and I were with some of the detention center kids doing pushups and other exercises. Its awesome that J and the other juveniles take care of themselves physically even when they’re limited in what they can do throughout the day.

An interesting question that J asked me was “how did you guys from the outside think of us? Or at least something along those lines. This was a touching question because it shows that J understands the preconceived notion that anyone in a detention center is dangerous or strange or something along those lines. I told him that we thought it was a great opportunity to get to know him and his other peers in the detention center and that we loved getting to share stories and learn about each other.

Week 5 Reflection

The last visit to the detention center was definitely bittersweet. Looking back on this experience it’s evident how impactful it was for me. The opportunity to talk with people from different walks of life and hear how difficult their lives have been made me appreciate everything I have. When you go about your everyday normal life it’s easy to get wrapped up in your own world and issues, especially when those around you are dealing with similar things like school. However, talking with people outside of your usual bubble who are dealing with real hard-hitting issues like jail time, family issues, poverty, etc makes you take a step back and realize how good you have it. I will be forever grateful for the amazing life I have knowing how difficult others have it.

It also was impactful hearing how our time at the detention center really helped the kids. I never thought much about how such a simple thing as sharing stories could make a real impact. It felt almost surreal hearing them share what this process has done for them. It’s one thing to discuss how storytelling can connect people but it’s completely another one to actually go out, share those stories, and build a connection yourself. I never would have thought I could have a real relationship with an incarcerated 15-year-old kid from inner city Richmond but through sharing stories I was able to do just that.

Last Day at the Detention Center

Our group’s last day at the detention center was bittersweet, but I’m very grateful for the opportunity. When we went to the center, I was nervous and a little sad that it was ending. When we arrived, we got to bring our snacks as per usual, and the kids that we met with seemed very excited to be given chips. We put the chairs in a large circle like we usually do, but this time there were only boys who agreed to meet with us. I noticed that the girl I met with the previous two weeks was no longer at the center, and I remember how she told me that she was likely getting sent to an in-patient mental health center. Weirdly, I felt a little sad that I didn’t get to see her or say goodbye. It made me think of the way that Coogan must have felt when the men he talked to came and went.

The boy I paired with this week was younger, he was about 14. His story broke my heart. He explained how he had been at the center since he was 10 when he was charged with selling guns. He told me that he would be at the center until (at the very earliest) his 16th birthday. It really stuck with me. He also got emotional telling me that he hadn’t seen his baby sister since he was arrested. After we left the center, I became a little teary-eyed while telling my classmates about it.

 

Again, I want to stress how much I’ve loved this experience and I’m happy that I stuck with the class.

Reflection for 3/22

It was a bit saddening for it to be the last day meeting. The guy I was working with ended up passing his GED! It was so exciting to hear, and I was so happy for him because it was a significant step towards him stepping into a better place and advancing his interests. He is excited to start preparing for his driver’s test after he gets out. We talked about his plans, even the first meal he’ll have once he is out.

He seemed fairly content with his story. I told him that he could use it as something to draw back on if he ever finds himself struggling after his release. As we made it to the end and moved into Group Discussions, it was nice to see a more casual interaction. Favorite snacks, favorite sports, and a lot of other relaxing and casual conversation. Learning the stories of some of the other inmates was interesting, and it was also seeing a more casual side of him that was also exciting.

Reflection for 3/22

I may have heard all of the cliché sayings before, i.e. “this really gave me a different perspective,” “I feel like my voice is really heard,” “this gave me a chance to express myself,” “I feel heard,” etc. Although, because all these things have been hammered into my head to the point where I’ve dismissed them as cheesy or shallow, it really hit me when I heard several students at the detention center actually say them; it’s not fiction, it wasn’t provoked by an English teacher, it didn’t come from any ulterior motives, but it was genuine. And from this (and a combination of other things, such as mental health, self improvement, etc), I’ve learned to attempt to see past whatever preconceived notion of cliché-ness attached to anything I hear because I feel as though I’ve excused far too many things that have meant more than the letters that spell them out on paper.

Prep Note 03/29

Reading “Small Things Like These” was a book that made me understand more deeply the complexities of human relationships, societal expectations, and the often overlooked struggles of ordinary people. The narrative captured the essence of everyday life, highlighting moments of joy, sorrow, and resilience, something that I often struggle dealing with. Through the lens of Furlong’s experiences, I found myself reflecting on the intricate balance between duty and personal fulfillment, as well as the relentless pursuit of stability in an ever-changing world.

One of the aspects of the book that resonated with me the most was the portrayal of family dynamics and the sacrifices made by parents for the sake of their children’s well-being. Furlong’s internal struggles and his longing for something more beyond the monotony of his routine left a profound impact on me, making me to reflect on the meaning of contentment and the pursuit of happiness. Overall, “Small Things Like These” offered a mirror through which I could reflect on my own values, aspirations, and the significance of the small moments that shape our existence.

Reflection 3/22

This visit was a really interesting one, as I talked a lot to my partner about how storytelling, and writing in general, helped with the expression of emotions. We told our stories about spring pretty quickly, and went on to discuss the story project as a whole. Our stories are both centered around family and the loved ones in our lives, and e talked about how we could say things through the written stories that we didn’t usually say to people in person. By writing our stories down we were able to be more emotionally venerable then when we were just talking to someone in person. My story partner mentioned this again at the end of our visit in the large group recap we did, which I thought was really inspiring. I was happy that our partners seemed to actually be taking something away from this project as I’d hoped they would. It makes me grateful that I got to be a part of this project and it makes me excited to bring them to campus soon.

Detention Center Week 5 Reflection

Today was the last day visiting the detention center before they get to come to campus. I talked with my story partner about spring memories, such as seeing the cherry blossoms in DC, learning how to ride a bike, and playing at the playground with my sister. In return, he told me how he always liked being outside during spring, even when it was raining. He loved playing football with his nephews and going to a local park to do so. I think the effect of telling these stories was feeling nostalgic for those good times. I know that he definitely smiled telling me those stories about being outside when it was warm during springtime.

Our storytelling then devolved into conversations about our favorite snacks, breakfast items, etc. He also asked me questions about the UR campus, which were unsurprisingly about sports facilities. Eventually, we joined two other pairs and everyone was talking about sports pretty much, which honestly isn’t my thing but I followed the conversation. When some of the guys reflected on storytelling at the end, I was moved when they said things like how it made them feel proud or just seeing their stories typed up felt cool. I noticed that the atmosphere felt very sincere when they said these things, and the energy was heightened even when we joined as a bigger group to talk. I wonder if they’ve ever been to places outside of the typical Richmond neighborhoods, as I think the trip to UR will be many of their first experiences in a place like this. I just hope they enjoy their time here because it really is beautiful. I was shocked upon coming here but I’m sure it’ll be even more wonderful for them after being at the detention center.

Reflection 3/1

One thing that really stood out to me during this visit was my story partner’s excitement regarding the physical nature of our project. Not only having his story written out in physical form, but that he would have a physical booklet of everyone’s stories to keep. He was especially excited about the fact that he would be able to show the story he told to the people in it, specifically his best friend and her family. I think that this aspect of our project was something I really overlooked before, how the telling of stories can not only bring together the teller of the story and the person listening to it, but also the teller and the people they are telling the story about. I think this visit especially helped me realize how important a project like ours can be to people who have stories to share and the ones in their lives who populate those stories.

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