The Limitations of The Manbox

Historically, being gay is considered outside of the ‘Manbox’. This is due to the many stereotypes and many limitations of the ‘Manbox’.

The word ‘gay’ is often used as an insult– a careless word to describe someone or something as stupid, weird, or lame– instead of being used as what it actually is, sexual orientation. It has a negative connotation.

This is, perhaps, because homosexuality has often been perceived  to be directly in conflict with masculinity. Based on an archaic sense of what it means to be a man, homosexuality does not fit. It falls outside of the ‘Manbox’ because gay men are perceived to be feminine themselves, as well as lacking the stereotypical masculine relationship with women.

Unlike the ‘Womanbox’ we filled out in class, which was full of and surrounded by overlapping terms and contradictions, the ‘Manbox’ seemed much less dynamic. This sense of there only being ‘one right way’ to be a man severely limits a man’s understanding of himself– and others. ‘Real men’ are not allowed to be feminine, a trait which is stereotypically attributed to homosexual men, despite the many gay men who are masculine in the traditional sense of the word.

Similarly, the relationship between gay men and heteronormative women is different from the relationship between heteronormative men and heteronormative women. Part of the ‘Manbox’ includes attraction to women. This is and has been affirmed culturally. Even for men who are less experienced with women than their peers, there is a certain stigma of having being less masculine. This stigma is even worse for homosexual men, who are often called ‘unnatural,’ or ‘disgusting,’ merely because their sexual preferences lie outside of women– which is to say outside of the ‘manbox’.

The conclusion, then, is that historically, it seems that often gay men are not seen as ‘real men,’ a conclusion that shows the stifling limitations of the ‘Manbox.’