Chapter 11: What role does religion play?

Chapter 11 aims to examine the role that religion and prayer has on longevity. It was interesting to see the variations in religious involvement– while some Terman participants, like Linda, were traditional and remained involved in their church throughout their lives, others were not involved at all, or had religious involvement decrease overtime. There was found to be gender differences on the influence of religion in longevity; women who were religiously inclined at mid-life seemed to live longer, whereas being religiously inclined seemed to have no influence on the lifespan of men. It was interesting to read about the links between religiosity and social bonds, and impulsive activity. Women who are religious are less likely to smoke and abuse alcohol, and are more likely to have strong bonds with people in their church. It seems as though if religion is a huge part of one’s life and identity, it may come with other positive factors that prevent negative lifestyle choices. On the other hand, women who are not religious tend to be less trusting and extraverted, and less likely to stay married or have children. It is clear that being religiously inclined comes with other positive characteristics that influence longevity. However, I would like to explore more as to why these effects are not found in men.

I was born Muslim, however I do not regularly practice Islam. In Islam, it is important to pray five times a day, fast during Ramadan, and abstain from alcohol. I have found that when I go back home, I may be involved in certain practices simply because my parents are doing it, or because it is expected of me. Since I was not taught how to read the Quran or put in Sunday school, I often feel alienated from some of my cousins and other family members. I am often unsure about my religious identity, or beliefs. I agree with the points Friedman & Martin make about the relationship between the religiously inclined and the desire to stay married or have children. It is very uncommon to see divorce in my extended family circle. This is not because there is no conflict, but rather because divorce is seen as culturally taboo. For many third culture kids, there is a disconnect between the two identities, and it is difficult to find where we fit.  Since religion was not strictly engrained within me while growing up, I feel as though I have to do a lot of soul-searching. Being religiously inclined helps one develop a lifestyle that promotes long life, and although it is not impossible for the nonreligious to live a long, healthy life, it takes more effort. It is important to be mindful and take the right steps and make stronger bonds with people outside of religious organizations.