Chapter 9 discussed the consequences of divorce on one’s life. Even though the results from the Terman subjects suggested that a healthy marriage does increase longevity, especially for men, spouses should not be seen as health supplements. The advice to “get married to live longer” should be taken with a grain of salt. Getting married for the sole reason of attempting to create a long and healthy life is not a smart health behavior, because divorce is substantially more detrimental than being single.
The authors also indicated that medical errors in hospitals are a leading cause of death and disability, therefore, it is helpful to have family advocating for you in these times. I believe that having family and friends by your side during a time of sickness is more beneficial than harmful, however, this argument relates to a book I am currently reading. In his book, “Being Mortal”, Atul Gawande examines how modern, advanced medicine saves billions of lives but when it comes to the end of one’s life, medicine may do the opposite of what is is supposed to do. Instead of doctors doing everything in their power to keep a sick, elderly patient alive, Atul discusses other ethical options for end-of-life care. Families are motivated to fight for their loved ones to stay alive, however, they can be doing more harm than benefit in creating a prolonged and uncomfortable death. I would be interested in comparing the benefits verses harmful effects family members can create when advocating for their loved ones in hospital situations.
I think that it is interesting that you made this connection between the books you’re reading; though the family wanted something one way, in the end, it may not be the best thing for the individual going through the situation. I think marriage can be seen this way; people should look at it from more a holistic perspective and consider everyone being affected by it, including children and spouses. From there, I think that it is important to make decisions with that perspective. Divorce or not, it is best to consider from an outside perspective whether the marriage is worth beginning, continuing, or ending.