The beginning of this chapter made me think about the times I’ve looked to others for comfort during tough situations, and other times when I isolate myself from others because of similar issues. It is crazy to me that some of the almost identical circumstances elicit such different social desires for everyone, including myself. I was surprised to read that sociability ultimately has no influence on longevity; however, was not surprised to read that social ties were critical to health. At first, I was shocked to read that there was no correlation between longevity and sociability because I assumed social ties and connections led to happiness and comfort, especially at old ages, and that sociability and social ties must go hand in hand. However, one can be introverted and not very social, but have a large support system and strong social ties.
I agree that everyone is so different, and I’m amazed just as you are on how even if two people have identical circumstances, each person has not only different social desires, but also elicits a different response to every situation. As I said in class, I feel like the measures in the book regarding high number of social ties and longevity do not go hand in hand, but there are many other factors to consider, not just regarding occupation.
I shared an empathy with you that when I was upset, sometimes I looked for helps from others, and other times I isolated myself from others. And it’s relieving to know that both ways work. And it’s exciting to again read about that introverts can also have strong social ties and support and enjoy greater longevity.